Manifesting money sounds like such a magical concept, right?! I know! Like EVERYONE has been talking about it for years, right along there with the secret and the law of attraction, and then it kind of faded from being a buzzword because people don’t really get how it works or because it’s starting to fade from public attention with the backlash that comes from the ‘follow these exact PRACTICAL steps and you will get what you want’ kind of crowd.
But if it was that easy.. just to follow the practical steps… why is everyone buying all of the programs, doing all of the steps (and killing themselves doing so) and yet STILL not having the real outcome you want?!
I mean –
surely if if is just as easy as doing what someone else told you to on Pinterest then surely you’d have the exact same replica results…
surely we all would?!
But of course – it’s so much easier to believe in something you see and feel – actionable steps which SEEM manageable – rather than to place our trust in the unknown, or the magical.
I get it! I used to feel this way about manifesting! Like a long time ago, when I first came across it, like there was a piece missing somehow. And there always was. I didn’t really get how to manifest what I wanted, and that’s why I’m writing this mini-guide, because I wanted to share with you a few of the truths around manifesting money in particular but also all the other things that you want, because I know it will make the whole process much easier for you –
And when you DO get how to do this, like you really understand how to manifest money, and everything else – your whole world will completely change.
SO the first thing you need to know!
1. This Thing Will STOP You Manifesting Money + What You Want.
Let’s get this out of the way first. If manifesting was as simple as closing your eyes and wishing, I’d be a billionaire with a yacht and a beltful of New York Times Bestsellers.
BUT – what you manifest will only ever happen and become yours when you believe in it so much it feels it already IS is a part of you. Right now, I am NOT at that stage where I believe I am a billionaire, therefore right now I am not one! (And from a practical sense, I haven’t done the work or understood what the work is YET in order to get there)!
Manifesting doesn’t start with wishing, it starts with believing, and you have to believe that you already have what you want so much that you’re kind of tricking your brain into it feeling entirely natural for you to have that thing that you want! However, if it feels difficult for you to even believe you can have what you want, then of course it will feel like a struggle to ever have that thing!
So if you believe you can manifest $20, $100, or $500, that will most likely feel easy for you -depending on your current circumstance – if you have minus figures in your account and you’re counting pennies to pay for your groceries, manifesting $20 will just about feel comfortable and normal, or maybe not even then!
And just like being a billionaire with a yacht feels very out of reach for me, and so therefore simply is NOT my reality right now, even something as simple as that $20 when you REALLY need it will also feel out of reach and therefore WILL feel much harder to manifest, if it is even possible at all,
simply because there is some part of you somewhere that says ‘nope, not for me, too good to be true!’ And even that desperate, pushing energy of NEED is kind of like that PUSHING force of the wrong end of the magnet which actually seems to repel money!
Yet on the other hand when everything is flowing and easy in your life isn’t it amazing how easy and flowing everything else also is and seems to be!? HOW GOOD all of life is!?
Because that’s what you choose to see and therefore it is much easier to see and believe more good is coming to you, and then it DOES, because you most likely take practical action and also ‘see’ from your perspective, from that place!
But the thing is – if you do not believe with every part of you, if you do not KNOW, and feel it is guaranteed, that the thing that you want, whether it’s manifesting money or anything else – that it’s already a guaranteed part of your reality? Then it won’t be.
The number of times I have tried to manifest money, so hard, when I have been broke – and hello, I am a business owner, and in business sometimes you feel abundant and sometimes you don’t! (entirely normal). And nothing happens. And yet other times it’s like it’s raining money and I can’t stop it if I tried!
And what I learned is, you have to be able to find that place where what you want feels so entirely normal to you, like it is 100% coming to you, then it will. And when you ‘need’ something, it won’t.
Which sucks when you really DO need it and want to manifest money! So what do you do? When you really do need and want the money coming in, and it’s not!?
2. The Hardest Part About Manifesting Money
Is making it so normal for you in your head it’s like you already have the thing. If there is ANY sense that you do not have the thing, that the money or whatever you desire is ‘somewhere else’ outside of your reality, then you it will remain so until you fully believe it IS yours. The only way I can explain how this works is by, weirdly, applying logic to it! Which kind of appeals to that side of my brain that needs a bit of logic especially when relating to more spiritual concepts and practices, the somewhat logical way of understanding how this works is to think about it this way –
If you believe you already have something, or that thing you desire is already on its way to you, and you ACT accordingly, your actions will then bring that thing to you as a result!
BUT one important note. This very practical explanation does in no way explain how the truly ‘magical’ parts of manifesting occur – like when I decided I wanted to appear in a very fabulous publication and then literally two days later a magazine – no joke! – called FABULOUS magazine got in touch and said they would like to feature me, without me DOING anything whatsoever other than FEELING that was going to happen!
BUT – if you need a concrete, logical explanation as to why this works – that would be it, that your actions, taken as if you already had the money or the house or whatever it is – would then bring you that thing!
Contrast that to the action you take, for example, when a bill payment comes in and you have no money as it is, what do you do? You go and scribble down all your notes of all the payments you have or don’t have coming in, or you think about what you can juggle, or you panic, or whatever it is you do. You basically go into this reactive state from which it is very hard to take aligned, POSITIVE action, that will bring you the outcome you want or at least it will give you the opportunity to at least meet the universe half way.
3. YOUR SUCCESS IS NOT THE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE UNIVERSE.
To manifest money or whatever else, you HAVE to first set your intention and desire (I usually do this in my journal) SECOND ensure my belief is rock-solid in what it is that I want IS coming to me, and third I then take ALIGNED action from that place of self-belief, confidence as if I already have said thing.
The thing is if we could all just wish and believe our intentions into reality, then they MIGHT come to us, eventually. But when you take action as if you already have that thing, not only are you kind of making it easier for your brain to believe you have that thing, and therefore making it easier for you to have that thing, you also give yourself a huge feeling of confidence and self-belief which then further motivates and encourages you to take action.
Again contrast that to the state you go into of fear and panic and self doubt when what you want ISN’T coming to you, and you’ll see why that further level of confidence and self-belief inspires further action and an even more likely chance you will receive what you desire based on your action!
But if you don’t even try
If you don’t do a single thing
If you don’t even try to shift what you TRULY believe, or are reluctant even to look at what you might believe about yourself, or money, or love or whatever you are trying to manifest – then it MIGHT happen. But it also might not.
I believe you have to at least meet the universe half way! So that you can tell yourself with ease that because of what you have ‘done’, that you are able to trust in the outcome coming to you!
4. THE SECRET INGREDIENT
The secret ingredient in the manifesting formula is trust. Trusting that the outcome IS coming. NOT allowing fear or self-doubt to creep in – the second that it does you are back to square one and need to start looking at your beliefs and habits again!
TRUSTING that you will receive the outcome for me means holding a sense of peace about it. So whenever you feel yourself getting tense because the outcome isn’t arriving, or what you want isn’t unfolding for some reason, try this
Either write the words NOW and BREATHE on your palm, to bring you out of your headspace that is working overtime trying to figure out WHY you don’t have it yet (which is a kinda dangerous place to be in, actually, because from there it’s only a short step into realising you don’t actually believe it’s coming). Writing the words on your palm helps you to slow down and find peace in the moment whenever you see the words, and you’ll catch glimpses of them often!
Or just taking a breath and saying – I trust that INSERT WHAT YOU WANT TO MANIFEST HERE is on its way to me right now, and it will be with me by DATE, and that, OR something else for the greater good of all concerned, is mine.
5. TRUST IN THIS OR SOMETHING BETTER
Sometimes, you simply WON’T get what you want. There is a good reason for this – because there is something better waiting for you, or because there is something else you are meant to have instead which ultimately will bring you far greater joy. This is really hard when you’re going through a tough time, and you want things to happen NOW, but sometimes we have to understand what we are experiencing really IS for the greater good in the long run. I’ve experienced so much LOSS in my lifetime I sometimes really struggle when I remember how I felt back then, but then I remember that all I experienced and learned was what got me here today.
In a similar way, I had a vision for a dream house I wanted when I moved back to Cyprus, and I journaled on it and meditated on it and felt for the longest time that this WAS going to be the house for me, no matter what it cost or what it would take in order for me to have it – it just simply would be mine, no question about it! What a surprise then, when I was journaling one day to find that what popped into my head was not that house.
Instead it was nowhere near as luxury, it was light and airy and spacious and had amazing views, but it was NOT the house of that I had dreamed of and was working on manifesting for such a long time! What was going on?! And whenever I tried to go back to journaling on the previous, super luxury house, the other one would pop up instead like this annoying barrier I couldn’t get through!
Then I remembered something I’d learned on a retreat a few years back, with an incredible 7, if not 8 figure business owner, and I remember feeling just so blessed to even be there! And during one exercise he gave us it was
‘I trust in this or something better for the greater good of all concerned’.
Trust in something better! Was THIS the something better!? Even though perhaps it was not as luxury!?
Anyway – I contacted an agent about the luxury property and the landlord was EXTREMELY fussy to say the least, requiring a YEAR’s rental payment upfront AND a ton of other things we had to go backwards and forwards on, to the point where I really had to go away and think about it –
AND THAT, for me was a very clear sign that the property I THOUGHT was meant for me was NOT the one, because anything that requires you to go and have a think about it is probably a clear sign it is NOT the one!
And instead, funnily enough, I had an email from Notes from The Universe that day, have you seen that site? It sends notes from the Universe on a daily basis and I’ve been a subscriber for years now, and I still love reading mine! And about two days after saying NO to dream house, and realising the one with light and space was the ‘right one’ but still feeling a bit gutted about it all, and mine said –
Remember that lovely 5 bedroom house filled with love light and space Charlie? It’s waiting for you, you know.
Or words very close to that effect, and it WAS waiting for me – just over a week and a half later we moved in despite all sorts of initial complications and our lovely landlord couldn’t have been MORE accommodating which gave the whole thing such a nice vibe, in total contrast to the previous house where I’d just picked up this grabby-money kind of vibe, they were funny about the pets, and so on!
And this is the thing then – you have to trust that what is unfolding is all for the greater good, and that what you (really) want IS on the way to you!
6. THE MILLION-DOLLAR QUESTION
I used to ask myself this all the time, and I get this a lot from my clients, so I’m sharing it right here for you now – HOW do you feel like you have more money, when you simply don’t?! Like on those days when you feel poor and your bank feels empty or at least most things are accounted for, or maybe you are even at that stage I was at maybe five or six years ago when I was raiding my kids piggy bank – and actually HAVE been at even more recently, my business had a bad year in 2017/18 because, well, that’s business! OK so not quite at piggy bank raiding stage but there were definitely days when we were traveling where we had zero money and had to hop from pay check to pay check, and even now having just moved in, flown from the other side of the world, had to pay for a million and one things including cars and rental deposits and utilities connections and even new clothes as we thought Cyprus would be a SLIGHT bit warmer than it is now – it would be pretty easy right now actually to FEEL broke, even though there is money coming in!
So when you know you have to at least feel like you have money in order to feel good and comfortable around it, in order to manifest more of it, and you know that hungry, desperate energy will only push people away –
How do you get into that place of belief, trust, and ease about it all when it FEELS like the opposite is happening!?
Well first I like to make it into a bit of game! I shop like I am wealthy regardless. So I will choose the slightly pricier cheese, or as one of my mentors once said ‘if you really want raspberries but blueberries are cheaper, and you always go for the blueberries, choose the raspberries!’ and choose it decisively, like it’s not even a decision! After all, the rich version of you would automatically choose the raspberries! And choose not to worry about where that means you ‘won’t have X instead if you do so’ because actually, I’ve learned you hardly ever, if ever, regret the things you buy, especially the things you really want! So upgrade your shopping or whatever it is, guilt-free!
The second thing I do is find that place of peace above by refusing to allow worry or fear in. Every time I feel my heart racing I breathe and visualise what I want in my head – true story, while at the dentist the other day I was visualising something I have my heart set on while my dentist was drilling away!! – NORMALLY I would say make sure your manifesting is associated with positive, not negative experiences! But in this case I have a lovely and very luxe dental surgery and my dentist is lovely so it wasn’t like I minded, PLUS I saw it as an investment into my health and self-care! Breathe, visualise, and journal on how it will feel to have your intended outcome NOW!
Third, meet the universe half way, as described above, to gain that feeling of ‘doing something’ – NOT for the sake of doing it to bring in the money (although the money certainly MIGHT come in that way as a result)! But to help with your self-confidence and level of belief in that you’ve ‘done’ all you can in helping the universe to bring what you want to you!
That’s literally my entire manifesting process right there. Ok sure I journal the life out of it too, I’ll save that for another post maybe, but the main and probably most important thing to do if you want to manifest money is RELAX INTO IT.
I’ve really started to focus a ton on energy work over the past year, and I’ve learned that if you are NOT relaxed you are NOT putting out the right vibes for you to take action, attract positive people, opportunity and what you want into your life, OR to continue to believe that what you want is coming to you.
No wonder then you don’t get what you want – you probably wouldn’t see that what you want is coming to you even if it arrived – let me explain –
When you focus on MONEY, and you’re in a negative energetic state, (YES this is a bit deep for a post maybe but stay with me) if something came along that was EQUIVALENT to that amount of money coming in, you probably wouldn’t notice it because you’re so fixated on the MONEY itself coming in!
So you might not notice the free opportunity that leads to a PAID one, the publicity chance that opens doors to paid work, the extra hours going at work that would give you more money and further opportunity or the potential to go out there and create something that people would pay for – as just a few examples! You’d be so fixated on JUST the money arriving that you might not see all of these opportunities because they don’t DIRECTLY lead to money and you’d be so busy waiting for THE MONEY TO SHOW you’d simply miss where the money is waiting for you!
Whereas if you just trusted
And worked from that place of what felt good every day
And looked at everything with eyes wide open
What you desire WILL be yours.
ONE FINAL WORD ABOUT MANIFESTING
These are the bare-bones essentials of what I didn’t really ‘get’ about manifesting before! HOWEVER if there is ONE thing I could add.. it would be this.
Something you HAVE to know.
If you’re reading this is because you’re in a place of need, or wanting, or probably both. But what I HAVE to tell you is this.
MONEY isn’t going to come to you in ANY way shape or form, and certainly not in a way that feels lit up on top amazing, when you continue to exist in this desperate place FOR it. We’ve been taught to be scavengers, especially as women, feeding off the scraps they toss us from the top of the male food chain.
But the key thing about manifesting money, when you truly are ready for more money to appear, will be when you know this.
MONEY IS A FEELING. Money is beautiful, empowering, uplifting AND IT IS SOULFUL, SPIRITUAL, FEMININE, AND SEXY. How could it NOT be, when it’s a representation of the work you put out into the world, the confidence you went out there with, the way you refused to give up, the way you choose to find the JOY in the pain, and the love in the dance of the thing?
MONEY IS JOY, it is sheer JOY. But until we heal our relationship with it and realise it can be this way, that can feel so damn good it’s like the ultimate form of self care to know that whatever we desire is ours – so strong in our ability to create, to receive, to birth all of our dreams –
Then you end up forever stuck without it, OR WORSE, you get it through that very masculine way of striving and squirreling and hustling and ‘being good’ with money, (Well done, you got the A grade for saving up)!
But then somewhere else spectacularly falls apart along the way because you never REALLY healed the deeper issues all along. The SELF WORTH issues that go along with money, the CONFIDENCE Issues that go along with money, the deep rooted INNER WORK that we all refuse to look at because it’s easier to swallow the other pill!
But in the long run
And manifesting is not a magic pill, cannot and will not be all you need, until you take that energetic leap into saying YES to healing your relationship with money.
That’s where you can really start to understand how to manifest money, because it’s starts from that place of feeling really, really good about it. Not guilty, or anxious, or fearful – just really, really good.
You deserve that
Your family deserves that
Your legacy deserves that
Your femininity deserves that
Your creativity deserves that
Your hustle deserves that
We all deserve to drop the guilt, and feel really freaking good around money, talking about it, having it, LOVING IT!
Because from that place –
We get to receive more of it, and ENJOY all of it.