Have you ever received a request, over on the socials, from someone who wants to be your friend, but then actually sends you a message with details about what they DO?
It goes like this
‘Hi! I’m ****, and I work with women just like you! To help them do X.
What do you do?
Now, I love making friends on social media. And everyone has to start somewhere. But really, I find it hard to know what to say when people send me messages like this. Because what I want to say is,
DON’T YOU SEE!?!!
You’re still stuck in that old paradigm
of defining yourself by what you do.
Of what somebody else does
Which you will then use to judge that person as to whether or not you will further pitch them your services, in an attempt/ to help.
And how, are you REALLY, EVER going to be able to help anybody discover what they are really, incredibly, truly brilliant at, made for, and true abundance
If you’re still so stuck in the limited thinking that defines yourself and others by what they do?! I mean sure, the wording was slightly different, but the intention was the same!
I wanted to tell her what I DO!?
Well, this morning I got up, cried about my grandad, went to the bakery, bought christmas biscuits, wore my husbands jumper, watched the sun rise over the mountains and reflect on the sea, and I wondered about what books I want to read next.
I thought about my grand Etsy experiment and the fun of it all, I thought about how much I love business, I thought about how in the summer I pretty much ALMOST screwed my life up altogether, and would have done if I had carried on building a startup and applying for funding in which case I would have most likely had to have funding and worked in the way THEY wanted, not the way I currently do.
Which enables me to get up in the morning, every day, and eat Christmas biscuits with the family.
That’s what I have DONE, today. That’s what I DO, most days! But I’m sure that’s not the answer most people expect when they ask what I do 🙂
In fact I don’t even know what to say when anyone asks me what I do because I know some of us now exist so far outside that paradigm it’s almost like when someone asks us such a mere, mortal question it brings us straight back down plummeting to earth, we sit there blinking like we forgot such questions exist!
What we do?!
Well, we have fun every day, create every day, love a little bit harder every day, lose every day, stand up again every day, rise higher every day, paint truth every day, dance in colours every day, experiment with this thing called life every day and the human courage to do all of those things is what makes us receive everything we want and exactly what was intended for us!
We dive into femininity, truth, keep our feet planted, marvel at nature, become more nature, sometimes binge on netflix like everyone else earthside but most of the time we would rather eat our own hand than do life like everyone else does!
We are the ones who want to live on boats, in treehouses, in luxury five star hotels only, travel the globe (and do) build businesses with impact and overflowing abundance and think big while mainly enjoying HOME.
We dive into love, get burned, fall in again, and it’s the exact same with business and creativity and leadership and joy.
You think you’re ever going to achieve true abundance based on the limited thinking of ‘what do you do’?! no, my darling. No. It’s akin to that belief that ‘just work hard and you’ll make it’.
Sure, you might make a ton of money!
Will you cherish that money anyway, or know how to be a good guardian of it!?
or will you allow it to run and rule you as you cling to it or it somehow runs away from you because how you earned it was through hard work, and Lord knows if you work any harder there won’t be anything left of you TO work, and so you’re terrified of it leaving every day, just as mine once did –
And more than that even, will you be abundantly healthy? Will your relationship be abundantly rich? will your time cup be overflowing? Will you be in deep alignment with the seasons, stars, moon and your wildest creativity? And
no? So what are you doing it all for then!? What on earth, do you think the MONEY, chained by what you DO, is what will trigger it all!?
What triggers it ALL, is the simple choice to shift.
To decide, actually, that there is no place for you right here, tied down by the heavy weight of their questioning, following their boring step by step systems, like a little earthworm sent to do the work!
Sending those little facebook introductory messages that are a thin pitch to sell your services, just like your coach told you to, as if that’s ever enough to bring you into true, deep, lasting abundance?!
Those little steps you keep making into business? Maybe I’ll host a workshop! No, I’ll write a book! No. I’ll just raise my prices! No – that’s it, this year I’m going to get STRATEGIC! PLAN IT ALL OUT! That will be the thing that makes the difference, I’m sure of it.
And all the while wondering why it’s all truly evading you and why it all seems such hard work?
Is simply because you forgot to tune out and listen to the wisdom of your soul, the deepest voice of you, GOD, even, and to turn to people who will support you in that
And you instead chose to listen to what they tell you.
Of course, start there. We all start somewhere. But at some point you’re going to have to know, and I hope it doesn’t take you what it took for me, that it’s never going to be about listening to their voices, doing what you’re told to do, like the good girl you are, following the perfect plan! (You know the saying all good plans go to waste? There’s a reason that saying exists).
But about throwing off that seal skin of the good girl, screwing up the plan, throwing it all away!
So what we do, the wild ones I guess, the ones who just can’t do life as they are told in any way whatsoever!
What we DO
We delight in making a plan mainly because we know there’s no way we will ever follow it.
We dance with subjects like LEGACY rip up the beliefs bestowed upon us by INHERITANCE and wallow in the joy of the every day, and every human that we come across!
We write, or paint, or coach, or photo our way around the world for the entire world is our home.
We LEAD like the leaders we are and we do NOT follow the little steps laid out in front of us and we SUPPORT others in their journey!
Do you know I’ve done barely any launches this year!?
Except I’ve launched a brand new income stream, started and destroyed a startup, launched three courses, continued to write my book, launched a mastermind, took on brand new coaching clients, recorded 52 podcasts, led 1:1 coaching retreats in Milan, right here in Cyprus, and this Christmas also in beautiful Bath in the UK – let’s not go into the fact that I was travelling while I did this, from staying with family in New Zealand to watching dolphins swim in the wild in Australia!
Well, did you SEE me do any of those things, other than my 30 Days to 30Ks program that I launched last January!?
(which almost everybody in launched new income streams, made more money, indeed one client made 50K within two days of joining! because when you say YES to soul, soul says YES to you)
I barely mentioned them. Barely a whisper.
In fact most of the time I hardly show up online at all, at least it feels that way!
But none of it happened because you will work hard.
Or because of the thing that you do.
You can push and push and push and get somewhere
Or you can allow allow allow and allow MORE! Allow yourself fun, ease, flow, joy, allow yourself to do the things that feel wild and exciting and a little bit naughty!
That is NOT going to come from any kind of system or following technique and strategy as if your life depends on it! That will only ever bring you just the money –
but for you, and I, life is about so much more than just the money.
And it will never again be based on, as if your wild, vast, multi-dimensional being could ever be based upon a single identity of what you DO. Of hard work. Of doing, prized over being.
We’ll leave that to the rest of them.
We know, abundance is so much more than that.
So, you do whatever you want to ‘do’, or be seen and defined as doing!
As for us, well, you know where we will be.
Watching the sunrise, eating Christmas biscuits, marvelling at the sheer beauty of this thing called life. And then sometimes, we might just call it ‘work’.
SHE RISES 2020
Drop the system, the strategy, follow the UNplan, serve who truly needs you and make money, time, and love flow! by dancing with the wisdom of your SOUL.
Ready to really elevate your business and brand in 2020? Ready to move into deeper trust, drop scarcity altogether, create what’s actually IN ALIGNMENT and bring such pure energy into it that makes your services, products and launches fly – no STRATEGY required!?
No winter blues for you.
Only deep, wild expansion, acceleration, and growth.
See She Rises. here.